Showing posts with label social networking. Show all posts
Showing posts with label social networking. Show all posts

Saturday, July 17, 2010

The limp handshake

I've shaken hands many, many times in my life and I've come across all kinds of handshake responses. Some were good ones and others were just horrible with limp, fishlike like handshake like the one I experienced with a Deaf person at a NAD convention a few years back. This happened twice with the same Deaf person. It was a handshake signal that conveyed lack of confidence and weakness. It wasn't a sweaty handshake but somewhat a moist, fish-like limp handshake. It is the second worse kind of handshake next to a sweaty one. Enough to withdraw your own handshake quickly and avoid that person the next time around.

The most important handshakes are when you're establishing a business contact or relationship with a person you're meeting with for the first time (and thereafter). Other handshakes are for social reasons not related to business but still just as important. It's important for deaf people to understand the value of a handshake along with other social cues like eye contact and saying the right words. In other words, strive for the "perfect" handshake and avoid being known as a person with a fish-like, limp handshake that no one wants to shake it with. There is a time and place on how to do the right handshake. Not every handshake has to be a strong, firm one. Social settings dictate the kind of handshake needed.

Of course handshakes between men and women are different, especially when it comes between two opposite sex shaking hands with one hand normally being the bigger hand of the smaller one. And those with small hands, there are ways to counter strong (even crushing) handshakes of a bigger or stronger hand during a handshake. There's a technique in a handshake where you won't feel overwhelmed with an overly aggressive and crushing handshake by an ego driven idiot. A technique that can even prevent hurting your hand. Maybe I'll show you how the next time around? Meanwhile, watch that handshake!