Domestic Violence Against Men (and Women)

It's an ugly thing for both sexes who are the victims of such undeserving action whether one is deaf or hearing. It's just not the females who are victims but the males, too, believe it or not. There are organizations that help support victims of DV for one or both sexes such as Domestic Violence Against Men in Colorado, for example, National Domestic Violence Hotline, and the many organizations on stopping violence against women.

In the Domestic Violence Against Men in Colorado it has an interesting article about the problems of dialing 911, not that you shouldn't, but there are some unforeseen potential actions that could result in dialing 911 with unknown consequences with a warning, "descent into hell often begins by dialing 911." An eye opening read from the point of view with males being the victim.

Regardless, it's ugly for both sides, and often times children are on the short end of the stick watching it all unfold before them and the police barging in to investigate after a 911 call. Work it out if you can. Or leave for awhile to cool off. Find some outside help first. Think twice, three times before picking up that phone and dialing 911, through a video phone or by texting 911 calls.  Emotions are hard to deal with and that sometimes rational or common sense thinking can go out the window. 

Keeping it simple

I like to keep things simple in life and try to look for the more positive things. For me, I refuse to use my disability or my hearing loss as a crutch or an excuse in life. There are ways to educate people that's simple when it comes to communication access. People continue to learn new things when it comes to those with hearing loss. Many people I work or associate with have mild hearing loss and some do wear hearing aids. Few I know have moderate hearing loss. Sometimes in one ear or both. One is a young adult who has a hearing loss but only in the high frequency range but hears just fine but no hearing aids. And of course those who have much severe hearing loss and know signs.

Nothing is worse than to have people look down on you with pity especially if the person plays the game using deafness as his/her crutch. I refuse to see myself as a victim or behave like a victim all the time. Playing the victim card at every waking moment isn't a healthy life while accusing and blaming people all the time.

Accentuate on the positive. Keep it simple by keeping the path clear.