When a Deaf Person Goes Too Far

Ridor on my cousin Gregory Stone (April 2005) who was murdered in Kuwait in the tent grenade attack a few days before the Iraq war leaving behind his fiance' and kids - " ...second, to make fun of his dead, mangled cousin who is rotting six feet under the cold ground."

Image and perception are everything but there is this one unbelievable Deaf person who keeps stepping over the line with the lies and accusations by libeling other deaf/Deaf/hh people and/or by wishing them with death, injury or suffering out of his own malice, hate and with lots of grudges. He has managed to put down some successful Deaf, deaf and hard of hearing people on what they have achieved so far in support of their deaf and Deaf communities. If he's willing to libel and post lies with no links or proof, then I'm willing to post facts, proofs, compelling evidences and links.

Now, I do not have the desire to wish upon an innocent person's death, injury or the suffering of diseases or whatever. There is a difference between not liking somebody versus the utter hatred and grudge against a person that makes him to say such vile and hurtful things. It is even more vile and evil to wish the death of an innocent baby belonging to a parent. I don't do such things by wishing with such malice against people like that, not even on Ridor or his friends. I am not in the business to make vile comments just to increase website hits. Neither does an upright and honest deaf Christian man with his wife and infant son who is a friend of mine. I am in the business to see that deaf, Deaf and hard of hearing people succeed in life whenever I blog about them. But when push comes to shove, I have no recourse but to state the obvious here in my blog. There is such a thing as going too far, and Ridor did just that by wishing the death of a parent's infant son hoping the deaf father will trip and fall on his baby. This is the classic sign of a grudge filled hate and just wanting to be plain mean to other people. I have no jealousy about his blogsite. I have no malice towards him. I have no vile hatred. I never held a grudge to the point of stalking a blogsite (like mine) by using various IP address from Las Vegas to the computer rooms at Gallaudet University after being banned over a year ago for making vile and profane comments against those who posted comments on my blogsite. I am not that type of a person. However, I am a human being and I am never perfect. And I do have emotions and feelings.

If it's anything to give the Deaf community a black eye, it would be the notorious Ricky Dorian Taylor or Ridor for short his nickname. Either way, he also goes by Ricky Taylor or Ricky D. Taylor. For every positive step forward that the Deaf community is trying to forge ahead, Ricky has the unsurprising ability to notch down positive actions by the Deaf community with his antics by spewing vile hate against other deaf, Deaf, and hard of hearing people. This isn't unity. This isn't about "Deafhood". This isn't debating. This is about his obvious hypocrisy and hate towards other people. Pure and simple. He thrives on attacking people and creates his own little drama queen fantasy world.

I hate to come down to this but what he did to wish upon an upstanding but deaf Christian father the death of his infant son with the hope that he trip over him and fall on him with his large frame calling him a "lard ass weight" (note the irony of his comment with a picture of Ridor as grossly overweight). Ridor gave me no recourse but to display to the Deaf world for exactly who he is. A hypocrite within the Deaf community.

Remove the mask, Ridor.

For anybody to wish for the death of a parent's infant baby holds the deepest of all grudges with utter pure hate. Unreal. Ridor should make a public apology to the Deaf community and to Dale Patterson and his wife for making those hateful comments (note: Dale is the deaf owner of the ever so popular Deafreedom forum). Else, if he refuses to apologize to him and to the Deaf community for his irresponsible actions then it comes down that Ridor does not believe in unity or even "Deafhood" unless he can make the needed positive changes about himself and toward other deaf, Deaf and hard of hearing people.

Below is a history of his hate filled and vile comments thrown and smeared against deaf, hard of hearing and Deaf people that are either a part of the Deaf community or not. He has smeared against those who do not conform to his militant Deaf Culture ideals. I have provided the links as proof of his behavior and his antics where his mask of hypocrisy is now blown clear for the Deaf community to see. The Deaf community can decide for themselves on exactly who this Deaf character is for who and what he is, and how they need to address this.

The first comment below can be seen in the Deafreedom forum website owned by a deaf Christian father named Dale Patterson. By the way, Dale has never sent any emails to Ridor for over a year and Ridor, again, has failed to show any proof that the email originated from Dale. Dale has never wished such things as Ridor is claiming. It is not within Dale's character to be like that.

Ridor on Dale Patterson - "To Dale Fatterson: Hey to the 400-lb guy, thanks for the email where you said you hope to see me die of AIDS. I hope you trip and fall on your infant and kill the infant with your lard ass weight — this one probably will torture you more than death itself. It is the least thing you deserved for sending these malicious comments to my blog — but thanks for visiting, though!"

Ridor on Mike McConnell of Kokonut Pundits on GallyNet-L (June 22 13:25:05 EDT 2006) - "Go and fight some forest fires. Do me a favor, you'll do the c0mmunity service if you perish in it."

Here were have Brenda Brueggemann who is a deaf Associate Professor at Gallaudet University who prefers to use her voice. She is also currently interim head of the Gallaudet University board of trustees. Ridor discriminated against Professor Brueggeman's choice to use her voice at the 2006 Commencement exercises at Gallaudet University by mocking her decision. Note how Ridor emphasized "on the property of Gallaudet University" as a hint, hint...ASL only mode of talking allowed on the campus of Gallaudet University:

Ridor on Brenda Brueggemann (May 12, 2006) - "Today, we have the interim Chair, Brenda Brueggermann, who came on the stage during the Commencent Exercises. She is deaf, and guess what she did? She barked and yowled. She used her voice, as the interim Chair of Gallaudet’s Board of Trustees, on the property of Gallaudet University, to address the audience."

After lashing at Brueggeman for the use of her voice which was amazingly clear and concise at Gallaudet University's May 12, 2006 Commencement speech after I watched and listened to the video of the Commencement exercises, please note the irony and hypocrisy of Ridor who pretended to support "unity" one month later as seen below:

Ridor (22nd June 2006) - "Now try to apply yourself to the issues within the Deaf Community. For years, many Deaf people has disintegrated into different groups (Hard of Hearing, D/deaf, latened Deaf, CIs, Cued speech, Oral, ASL, SEE et al), we could not bind together in the best interest of our basic needs and rights. Who divided us? Hearing people and internalized oppressed deaf individuals.

We need to stop thinking that we have to respect others in order to buy peace, but it is false peace. We need to convince the others to understand that they can be Deaf even if they can hear a little — even if they can talk well - even if they have CIs, even if they use the cued speech! We need to stop allowing the internalized oppressed deaf individuals from trampling our basic needs and rights. It is time to fight back for our dignity and pride!"

Who divided us? Ridor is doing a good job by himself. There's more below.

Another one of his hypocrisy is his refusal to acknowledge that anyone who graduated from Gallaudet University as a deaf or hard of hearing person cannot be a representative of Gallaudet University regardless of how much one has contributed or very little or none at all:

Ridor from DeafDC, post #4244 (2006-05-20 14:25:04) in response to my comment where I said that I am indeed a representative of Gallaudet - "One more thing — the person who imitated mcconnell has a point — this guy claimed to represent the deaf community — but is he on any organizations of the deaf? no. is he doing something about it? no. then why should he represent us? "

I am a representative of Gallaudet University since I graduated from Gallaudet University in December 1991. Else if he says that I'm not, then it proves more to the point that he's a hypocrite on trying to pass himself off as a believer on "unity" and "Deafhood". I have contributed in more ways than one.

Here's another irony and hypocrisy on respecting our basic needs and rights for all deaf, hard of hearing and Deaf people. Guess which ones he left out on those he hold respect to?

Ridor (December 8, 2004) - "So it is my duty to make sure that the cell phones or using the voice in a "deaf-dominated places" are discouraged. Period. .... No cell phones or using the voice -- use ASL at ALL TIMES."

So much for respect and the rights of hard of hearing and deaf people who prefer to use their voices to speak on the campus of Gallaudet University, which is in fact a "deaf dominate place", or even the right to use their cell phones to talk rather than to text anywhere on campus. Even in the cafeteria where so many of them use their Sidekicks and Blackberry to text to their friends and families and to their bosses. Deaf militancy still rears its ugly head even to this day.

Here's Ridor again trashing Matt Hamill, a Deaf mixed martial artist (MMA), who have gained noteriety and respect among the deaf, Deaf, and hard of hearing community in his quest for the UFC Octagon ring on the The Ultimate Fighter 3 reality show. Matt easily won his third official MMA fight against Jesse Forbes near the end of Round 1 which was shown on LIVE tv last night. Ridor wished that Matt would become brain damaged from his fights a few months ago when Matt Hamill exploded onto the scene into the Deaf and deaf communities' consciousness.

Ridor on Matt Hamill (April 6, 2006) - "And I am so hopeful that he’ll be brain-damaged by then."

Plus his continual lies seen here regarding the MMA and how I informed one person about my recent blogging on Matt Hamill that led her to Ridor's "brain dead" comment on his blogsite.

In other areas I have asked Ridor repeatedly to provide proofs for the sake of his readers the links where I have been constantly copying and pasting his ideas into my blogsite. Twice (see here recently and last year) I have provided a list of my blog topics for him so he can easily find which topics where he claimed that I have copied (the contents) or "stole" his ideas on a consistent basis from his website. Again, he refused to even lift a finger. Which proves that I am correct about his false accusations. In fact, in all of my 835 blog posts a little over 1% of my topics or contents were surficially related to Ridor's blog content to one degree or another with a few exceptions.

Moreover, I have never called him names even though he calls me "Mcweenie" and "McCock" more times than I care to say, and yet I have always addressed him as "R" or "Ridor". Or rarely, Ricky Taylor.

Another false claim of his is that I said that all gays bareback. Yet he failed again to provide the source(s) on where I said that, unfortunately. This goes against common sense by making gross generalities that all gays do this than anymore than all deaf or hard of hearing people only signs.

There's more but I will stop here and I hope that the Deaf community will have a chance to read my blog and come to the same conclusion that Ridor has placed his own interest above the Deaf community's who are trying so hard to come to grips on their own on how to best unite deaf, Deaf and hard of hearing people regardless of how they were raised or their preferred mode of communication. If it's division that's occuring, then count Ridor to be among those people who are doing it. I find it to be my duty to point out the hypocrisy of Ridor's to the Deaf community. He is certainly in the Deaf community's camp since most of them have supported him in almost every aspects of his blog reporting and his antics.

The Deaf community need to decide on how best to approach Ridor regarding his hypocrisy and how antics are going against the Deaf community's goals and efforts to try and better unify deaf, Deaf and hard of hearing people. Ridor is a high profile Deaf person that many or most Deaf people have heard of. Yet, many of them continue to look the other way and take his words for it.

To the people of the Deaf community, the ball is in your park on how to handle Ridor.

As for you Ridor, the ball is in your court as well. Either you continue to wear that mask of hypocrisy or remove it. So far at every turn you have pretended that you support deaf and hard of hearing people for their choices on how they communicate. Yet, what I have shown so far says otherwise. You can either deny all you want and continue to call me names and not provide a single shred of proof or you can turn this around and become more honest and forthright person that the Deaf community can be proud of. Your choice. Your move.

I wish everybody in the Deaf community a sincere good luck with this "unity" approach and I sincerely hope you can prove me wrong while you plan your efforts at the upcoming NAD convention next week. With Ridor in the picture, I somehow doubt that this can work if you continue to support his negative actions. Too much history on Deaf elitism and too much hate against those who don't conform to Deaf ideals . Even though I have practiced what I have preached on respecting and accepting every deaf, Deaf, and hard of hearing people regardless of their preferred mode of communication, how they were raised and their choices to use their hearing aids, cochlear impalnts or none at all. It makes no difference to me. But to some Deaf people, it makes all the difference.

Good luck to those who will attend the NAD conference. I am hoping that it will turn out to be a very peaceful and very respectful event.

We'll see.

UPDATE: Ridor is now attempting to "prove" that the email he received from Dale by posting his email at his blogsite. From Ridor:

———- Forwarded message ———-
Date: Jun 23, 2006 5:52 PM
Subject: news
To: news4ridor@gmail.com
You f-----g morron, I hope you die! (with AIDS)
Dale Patterson

Dale R. Patterson makes this response:

Rick, I'm sure my lawyer will thank you for making his job so easy!
First of all, I have never, will never wish AIDS on anyone.
Second of all, I haven't dropped the F-bomb in this century.
Third, I can spell 'M-O-R-O-N', you idiot.
Fourth and finally, I always sign my name 'Dale R. Patterson'. And I do
always sign my name to what I write - I never take anonymous jabs.

So, the only real question is are you a lying sack of crap who made this up to justify an attack on me and my family, or are you an idiot who fell for a fake email?

Either way, making it up, or repeating it without verification, you're still guilty of Libel.

Twice.

Email of that nature is not proof that the real Dale R. Patterson did this. It's pretty amazing how anyone can be so naive when it comes to fake emails. The real detective work starts with by keeping quiet and investigate the matter internally by doing an email trace. But, noooooooo, Ridor took the email at face value when it was signed with Dale's name. And blabbed it to every proof it came from Dale. Nice set of logic follow through here.

Not.

Ridor, go and learn about how to trace emails and save yourself the embarrassment, and any potential legal bills in the near future. Remove the offensive accusation about Dale from your blogsite. The dorky fake email that doesn't prove anything. And be ready to apologize publicly once you've learn the error of your ways. Else you have the option of continuing to be the moron you are.

UPDATE II
It's been almost 6 years and the dude can't even get his own story straight how he outright made a bald-faced lie about what he said/wrote by denying that he said that he hoped that Dale Patterson would trip and fall on his infant son killing him as seen in Facebook on April 22, 2012.

Proof that Ridor lied in Facebook can be found in his own blog.  Wait a few seconds longer to get past the "error page" and it will soon load up.

UPDATE III: He's a known cyberbully/internet bully. He actually publicly signed a pact on not to ever be involved in cyberbullying such as the Deaf Hope pact with over 200 signatures.

From this day forward I publicly commit myself to end all violence. Additionally I shall strive to contribute to a safe and supportive cyberspace. I shall neither participate in, encourage, nor endorse any form of cyberbullying.  

In the spirit of femtorship and mentorship and in the spirit of comm-unity, I promise to respect, honor and learn from myself as well as others.  

Sign the Pact  

Signed by on September 27, 2008:

It's unfortunate that Deaf Hope took down the "The Pact" link.  It's unfortunate that Ridor continues to bully people online in various forms and fashion.