Wednesday, July 10, 2013

When a journey is unique and special

Here's an actual discussion about "deafhood" that took place on a forum a few years back in 2011. See line below where the discussion begins.  Notice how people tried to define what my journey should or ought to be instead of saying, "Certainly, it's your journey." But they continue to define what it should be for me and how mine cannot possibly be a special one. It's the whole "deafhoodism" trappings because in reality it becomes a fantasy that anyone with a hearing loss will be embraced. No politics, politicization or political correct. Honest Injun!. But it's actually voodoo deafhoodism. Only because they say since your journey is a personal but, but!, you have to understand something else first in order validate your own special journey as Paddy Ladd once emphasized.
The concept of colonialism is central to understanding Deafhood, to understanding what has been done to us. And both also helps us point us towards some models of what to do and what to avoid.
I see this "us" as generally those belonging to a class of people with greater hearing loss versus those with less hearing loss. One class of people may feel that oppression is indeed real and does occur (or have occurred or continue to occur) to them while others may see little or no oppression issues. It probably has to do with the ability and ease to communicate with the hearing society.

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koko: I see XX as a forum for deaf, hard of hearing and hearing people who deal with hearing loss. There is no rule requiring deaf and hard of hearing people who must embrace "deafhood" in order to participate. A bunch of bs using the same "why are you here?" spiel. Sounds pretty darned territorial. Reason why I have no need for labels of that sort. I accept my hearing loss. I acknowledge it. What more do YOU want? I simply accept people with hearing loss for who they are. I don't need to bring a microscope for each one of them to see if they "qualify." I'd say, hell with that, let's just go to a sports bar and enjoy the company.

>G: a Classic mainstreamed denial.

>>M: Koko still doesn't get it. Again, Deafhood is not a GROUP. It is a personal journey...
      
(note from koko - I never said it was a group and have been saying for years since 2006 it's a personal journey without the need for a label to define what my journey is supposed to be).

>>>T: Actually I think Koko gets it and pretty much agrees with you. I think the issue he is stating is that some tend to pervert that journey into something akin to deaf culture. Koko is certainly choosing to live with his hearing loss his way. I don't think there is any question he has accepted is and coped with it. It is just a different path than many others took.

>>>>J: nope. He does not like the "Deafhood's" label and its political ideology and group think. no one's journey is same anyway. His journey is nothing more or less unique than ours. I dunno but it sounds like he thinks his journey is "special."

>>>>>T: As for thinking his journey is special.....I would hope he thinks that.

>>>>>>M: I think J meant that his (koko) journey is not unique...everyone's journey is special.

>>>>>>>koko: Fine but I say my journey is unique. Think of it as a thumbprint. It's unique but they all may seem identical but when you look at it closely it is definitely unique. Your journey is unique.

>>>>>>>>B:  I personally think you are rejecting the quality of Deafhood as a part of you because you are rejecting the journey. Therefore you insult it by calling it a label.

>>>>>>>>>koko: When it becomes an ideological and politicization labeling game then I have no need for it. I prefer to keep it simple. My journey is a deeply personal one yet there is no rejecting my own journey. You've attempted to define what my journey should be.

>>>>>>>>>>B:  I'm (sic) not commented on what your journey should be, I'm simply saying I don't think you taking one. I think you are sitting on the crossroads refusing to budge.

>>>>>>>>>>>koko: Yes, you've attempted to define what my journey should be when you said this - "I personally think you are rejecting the quality of Deafhood as part of you because you are rejecting the journey."

>>>>>>>>>>>>T to B: Seems to me he (koko) is on that journey..... You don't have to be part of the crowd to experience a personal journey. Koko seems to accept his deafness and cope with it quite well. Of course that is actually wrong for me to say too as I am judging his journey as well....even if it is in the positive. How about we let Koko decide for himself and we decide for ourselves about OUR journeys? I think that is the best idea.

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Indeed. And that, my friends, is what I've been saying for years. My own journey is unique and special. It's also private. In their ego they attempt to judge my journey. This is what some deaf people do by telling what my journey should or should not be, and that my journey cannot possibly be a special one. Sure it is. Each of our own journey is personal, private, special and unique. No two are the same. Just like the whorls on our fingerprints. Just get rid of the ugly politics and idiotic deaf political correctness.

In bowels of the Kappa Gamma dungeon

I'm not sure where the main lair of the Kappa Gamma (K7) took place as their official headquarter over the years but I'm sure it has moved a few times. I believe College Hall was a previous K7 headquarter. What would be interesting if not shocking is where did some of the hazing take place under the auspice of Kappa Gamma where in two cases the organization got suspended as a result? One "dungeon" would be the Krug Hall basement. If initiation did take place then hearing people living or visiting the dormitory hall would have certainly heard the blood curdling screams and cries emanating from deep below in the basement of Krug Hall.
K7 had (not sure where they are situated now) their headquarter in Krug Hall back in the 80's and there was one hearing student majoring in Interpreting who lived in Krug. I happen to know him very well. He would tell me how he could hear horrible sounds coming from the basement of Krug. This happened often. As a result, he was scared because he knew they knew he was hearing and could hear stuffs. His words: "The screams were blood curdling screams."
Blood curdling screams? Maybe they were screams of pain while pledges got their bottom paddled? Was the basement of Krug Hall the only place of meeting? Maybe they took place in underground tunnels under the campus of Gallaudet University to ensure their cries would be muffled or simply dared K7 to leave their K7 graffiti symbol?
I worked at PPD as Electrician maintenance. I confirm 100% I witnessed and visited all Gallaudet Tunels [sic]. The very most tunel [sic] I used to use was the one connecting MSSD to Gallaudet President's house. The Entrance in MSSD down basement near electrical or gas and heater machine. Another tunnel I secondly used connect MSSD-HMB-SAC. I confirm that I have visited all off the Gallaudet Secrete societies and fratenities organization room located in ELY building. I saw some of the simbole [sic]  from those secretes societies gratified [sic] in the tunnels.
Who knows where these hazing events took place? But their history betrays them that the "dungeon" appears to be their preferred choice. From the 1945 Buff and Blue newspaper:
Kappa Gamma Taps 10 Candidates From out the flaming vortex of the swirling and turbulent river, Styx, looms Kaoosa, the Scourgo of Probation. Unleashing one of the earliest probations in years, the Kappa Gamma Fraternity has surrendered to the stern hands of the Tetrad Terrible Four, eleven untried and trembling candidates for admission into its subterranean and rubicund portals:  
Herman Johnson, '46; Edmund Witczak, '46; Joseph Broz, '48; Carl Barber, '48; Michael Cherniawski, '48; Myron Lee, '48; Darwin Younggren, '48; Gwendel Butler, '49; Mark Carter, '49 and Delbert Erickson, '49.  
Alumni Brethren who desire to pay homage to VISHNU are welcome at any time to view the neophytes as they undergo the trials and tribulations under the drudgery of the Pawheeves, and await the taciturn and austere judgment of SHIV on the terrible DAY OF DAYS. Remember the date and place where, O Beloved Brethren, we are to gambol en masse with those who have successfully defied the tortures of the Underground.
And exactly what did those tortures entail? Who knows? Only the victims and brothers of power know.

What about hazing through the forcing of drugs? Alcohol? Cocaine? Marijuana? Pills? Did drugs play an important role in the hazing process? Does the fraternity atmosphere promote or encourage misogynistic attitudes toward women? Did it ever manifest into the form of rape? Did anyone commit crimes that people in high places were able to protect them from the finality of judicial reviews by escaping punishment with some of their brothers sitting in the seats? Who knows?  There are all kinds of questions about influence and power.

Who knows what happened in the past in the bowels of the Kappa Gamma dungeons? The pledge victims whether they made it through the initiation rites or not will continue to suffer until one day they will have the courage to speak out about the pain and travesty that shames their own organization for their past, cruel transgressions who are unwilling to apologize for what had happened in the past in the bowels of the dungeon of their K7 lair. Sometimes all it takes is for one brave and courageous brother to apologize and the rest will follow.

All it take is just one.

When will the victims get their day? When will they get their dignity back? It may never happen unless somebody stand up for once and all and help end the misery of the past. Not just for one victim's peace of mind but for the many others who are kept silent out of fear may someday see an opportunity.

Monday, July 08, 2013

Why did I blog about Kappa Gamma?

Why did I blog about Kappa Gamma?

For one, it's the despicable hazing and intimidation they have committed in the past and continued even after getting caught a few times for hazing. Did any of them learn anything at all after all those years even after getting caught repeatedly for hazing and getting repeat suspension? Sometimes I doubt that after seeing the number of hazing victims and the number of people that were intimidated in their wake. Although I'm naturally an optimistic person I leave you that with an open mind.

Secondly, the fraternity paddle represents the power to exert physical, mental and emotional abuse on their intended victims. To me, the paddle symbol does not represent brotherly love or respect for their fellow human beings but power. The power to exert control over their "lowly subjects" through physical and mental punishments during initiation rites. The kind of rites that have left lasting scars on many pledges whether they made it through the initiation or not.   Seeing a paddle is really a reminder on who the real bullies are. Why continue hanging proudly the fraternity paddles on the walls? Is that what bullies do when they put their trophies of past victims on their walls?

Thirdly, despite the organization cleaning up their act and publicly supporting a vigorous anti-hazing policy the problem is the number of hazing victims they have left in their wake spanning decades. Kappa Gamma or any of their brothers have refused to publicly apologize for causing physical, mental and emotional pain on their subjects seeing them as less than human beings.

Kappa Sigma is the one fraternity at Gallaudet University that best exemplify the philosophy of brotherly respect and seeing their pledges as true human beings and as equals and not some "lowly scum" subjects who deserve to be hazed and intimidated. That is an example that all fraternities and sororities should strive for without the need to have any kind of hazing, no matter how subtle.

Of course, in any fraternity organization you have your few bad apples who insist on using their influence and power to intimidate and bully other people long after they have graduated and made a name for themselves in the working world. If they think they are safe in their place of power from their own past misdeeds, then they better think twice about that. History has a way of catching up. Yet, they continue to be the bullies they are and set bad examples and name for their own fraternity long after the fraternity has cleaned up its act of no more hazing and acts of intimidation.  It is the fraternity's responsibility to confront their brotherly bullies to clean up their act and stop targeting their victims and other people through intimidation and fear.

You see? This is what hazing creates. For some victims it can create lasting emotional and psychological pain long after the initiation was completed. It is really a fraternity's own fault for creating that kind of an atmosphere that is still being felt today by some of their victims. Even though many fraternities have cleaned up their act and instituted a strong anti-hazing policy stance the problem is the many victims they left in their wake because of their own stupidity and ego.

It's time that brothers and the KG fraternity do a public apology for their intimidation and hazing practices over the years. It is the only way that will help with the healing process between them and their victims whether they are already brothers or former pledges who didn't make it. This would be a true act of unity in action rather than continue with a divisive attitude and acts of intimidation.  In fact, some fraternity brothers have done exactly that by apologizing for their past misdeed and naïve behaviors like this one fraternity brother who wrote an apology letter to all the victims that he helped create simply because he was young and naive:
Yet, if I truly want to be a Revolutionary Man, I have to be ruthlessly honest with myself. I have to own up to mistakes I’ve made, people I’ve pissed off, and most importantly people I either took advantage of or caused unnecessary harm to. Above all, I have to be honest about where I stepped out of my own integrity. This process requires that I leave no stone unturned.

The purpose of this post is to publicly apologize and to own up to three key mistakes I made while I was an undergraduate:

1. I watched and did nothing as others were hazed, knowing inside that it was wrong. 
2. In turn, I betrayed my own integrity and hazed others. I manipulated, misled, shamed, and verbally and emotionally hurt other men.  
3. When I changed my tune and realized hazing was wrong, I “came out” against hazing in a very unskillful fashion.

In college I took part in hazing other men with the aim of unifying each pledge class and “making” pledges active members of my fraternity. A guy had to “earn” his way in, and dammit, I was going to make it hard for him. After all, I reasoned, I went through it, now he has to go through it too. I think the members achieved the desired outcome of unifying the pledge class, but the means with which we did it were plain wrong.

I had many justifications for my behavior. “It’s not really real.” “I didn’t mean the things I said to him.” “It was just a joke, all BS, just for fun.” “If this guy didn’t go through hell week, he’d still be an arrogant asshole. I put him in his place.” “It made him a man” and many, many other such rationalizations.

Not until I became President of the fraternity did I begin to fear the repercussions of my actions. My good friends called me “God squad” to imply that I was abusing my power as I tried to balance old traditions with my new responsibilities. I began to slowly speak out against hazing some, but pretty weakly and was too scared to really stand up.

When I began to work for my fraternity headquarters as a leadership consultant after college, I really changed my tune. There, I heard a man speak by the name of Dave Westol who spoke of the atrocities of hazing. I got it at that speech. This is when I began to piss a lot of folks off: “Who’s the hypocrite telling us what to do?”

Now, years later and with a master’s degree in psychology under my belt, and having studied trauma extensively, I understand the price tag of hazing on the human psyche.

When faced with a threatening situation, we humans respond in one of four ways: Fight, flight, freeze or submit. In college, I witnessed men go through all of these. Men cried, men fought back, men left the fraternity forever, men “took it,” and men just simply shut down—they would get silent for hours, days, and weeks.

I traumatized other men, period. Yes, I was young and naïve, but that is no excuse for immature, hurtful behavior. I was a boy initiating other boys.

Grow a conscious. Grow some gonads. Be revolutionary and apologize to your victims. Show yourselves to be real men by exemplifying what fraternity brothers are really like and that is to show true respect for their fellow human beings whether they are brothers or not. Move away from a boy-like mentality and finally become men with pride and respect.

I support the victims. They have no voice because they were effectively silenced through acts of intimidation by instilling fear in them for even daring to speak up about past transgressions against them.

I am challenging you, Kappa Gamma, to finally do the right thing.

President Hurwitz (a Kappa Gamma brother of the 83rd Congregation who is now the university president of Gallaudet University - he is listed on the KG website as being in the 83rd Congregation and called a brother and never attended Gally as a student but is an honorary brother), do you support the victims or the few wayward brothers who continue to intimidate people into silence? Do you understand the price tag of hazing spanning decades on the human psyche and what it does to the victim's moral and self esteem?  Did you also watched and did nothing? Do you not feel remorse or concerns?  Do you wish to finally unify all of your brothers and past pledges and other past victims of hazing? Do the right thing, president Hurwitz and set an example.

These victims will not be silenced!

Sunday, July 07, 2013

Special Edition: Hazing History of Kappa Gamma

Do Greek organizations ignore their own history of hazing, especially the paddling part?  It doesn't help when paddles are proudly displayed on the walls inside the lair of a fraternity house.  Seeing a paddle hanging on a wall is a stark reminder of past physical abuse that have produced many bloodied and bruised buttocks in the name of "brotherhood" pledging process. You might ask yourself why someone is willing to sell their own original, vintage wooden pledge paddles on eBay? Embarrassed to have one around knowing its dark, secret history?


Kappa Gamma's history is filled with getting caught for hazing but did they ever step up to the plate and apologized to all the pre-pledges, pledges and current members for the physical and mental abuse in the past? Maybe it's high time that they collectively as a group or least somebody with the balls to step forward and do their "mea culpas" acknowledging the errors of the organization's hazing past onto others and publicly apologize on the campus of Gallaudet University for their organization's past misdeeds? Like a publicly apology on the campus of Gallaudet University from current president of Gallaudet University Dr. Hurwitz who is the 83rd Congregation Kappa Gamma brother as a start? Not all members, pledges or pre-pledges made it through completely unscathed. Some may still carry emotional, physical and/or mental scars as a result.
Paddling is one of the oldest traditions in Greek organizations, and was adopted by many Black Greek organizations. Although receiving a swift whack to the backside with a wooden paddle may seem harmless, it is possibly the most dangerous ritual. Paddling can cause blood-clots, kidney damage, blood in urine, Rhabdomyolysis, and death in many cases when symptoms go unnoticed.
 
It's not just the mere paddling with a couple of easy whacks. It's the handling of a paddle wielding it like a baseball bat and exacting the full force of contact squarely on the buttock turning it red, purple and blue. The goal is to injure and humiliate.
Source

Paddling victims could receive severe injuries on their buttocks looking like this here.

Anytime you see paddles hanging on the walls of a sorority or fraternity house means they are proud of their paddling and hazing history. Why else would they display them in the first place? A paddle represents physical, mental and emotional abuse. Hazing manifest into a gang-like mentality by members in the effort to weed out the so-called "weaker" ones through physical and mental abuse in the pledging process.

Hazing comes in all shapes and sizes in terms of subtlety and obviousness with paddling being the very obvious kind of hazing exercise which is a no-no in fraternities nowadays. But it still continues elsewhere. However, there is one international fraternity on the campus of Gallaudet University, the Kappa Sigma, who believe in the simple honor and respect of their fellow human beings. From the 1990 Tower Clock Gallaudet University Yearbook, page 324:
The benefits they had to offer, frankly, were unequaled by any other organization I knew of and the concept of a warm, strong brotherhood that these men had shared caught my fancy.  another valuable plus about them: they don't haze.   Their stand against hazing and the belief that pledging should be any enrichness and education of character rather than abuse and strict "training and re-education" of minds and bodies only served to further reinforce my initial hunch that this fraternity was the one for me.
Whoever wrote that hit the nail on the head. But a question must be asked. Is hazing, however subtle, still continuing somewhere in the dark recesses of the Kappa Gamma's building (or any fraternity for that matter) in their super-secret effort to somehow stay connected with their long tradition of hazing going back to perhaps the early 1900s?  According to Wrongs of Passage: Fraternities, Sororities, Hazing, and Binge Drinking the possibility of some level of hazing may still be continuing out of habit and connection to their own history which I hope that this is not the case for Kappa Gamma at this point.  
School administrators also find it hard to halt the actions of alumni who haze (or who encourage undergraduates to haze), because penalties such as school suspension that deter students are no threat to alums. Another problem is the unevenness of enforcement across schools. In particular, many noncriminal pledge activities (wearing "dinks" or beanies, silly clothing, or pledge pins; getting members to wear undergarments; lining up without being subjected to verbal or physical abuse) are considered hazing by authorities at one institution, while the same actions are tolerated at another. Yearbooks at Gallaudet University in the '80s and early '90s carried pictures of student club members being hazed, for example, and these "harmless" initiations were vigorously defended by some Greeks. After the ex-wife of a Kappa Gamma fraternity pledge sent photographs of her ex-husband's bruised buttocks to the author and to Chuck's Eilen Stevens, Kappa Gamma officers Brian A. Bippus and Paul R. Rutowski defended their hazing activities performed behind closed doors on the Washington D.C. campus of Gallaudet.  
"Our paddling was based purely on a voluntary basis, and it was always done with a purpose. Paddling is a common practice among fraternities and sororities, as well as secret societies across the nation....We are not in this alone." 
We are not in this alone?? What a great excuse to paddle! Like lemmings following other lemmings over a cliff using their own warped justification to physically, mentally, and emotionally abuse pledges with their elongated wooden paddles.
Stevens wants all schools to ban "harmless" activities that involve the dominance of a group over non-members who wish to belong. If you allow objectionable pre-initiation rituals, you increase the odds that a tragedy will eventually occur, she said. Talking to thousands of students and parents a an activist and speaker on the college circuit has convinced her that all hazing practices enslave the hazed and hazers alike.   In a 1997 telephone interview, she said that hazing creates what is tantamount to a caste system at schools dedicated to ensuring equality for all. Hazing occurs when a group perceived to have power over a new comer requires someone to do any of the following:

*engage in servitude, run errands, and perform so-called favors
*participate in intimidation; use derogatory terms to refer to pledges; terrorize; use verbal abuse or create a hostile environment
*engage in acts of degradation such as required nudity, partial stripping, rules forbidding bathing, and games played while someone is in a state of undress
*engage in rough rituals involving physical force, paddling, electric shocks, beatings, calisthenics, and sexually demeaning behavior.
The list continues on for another page.

Here's a quote to remember from a piece called, "What is a 'Real Man?' ":

"Men belonging to a fraternity live at the contested border and boundary between acceptance and rejection."





In a 1993 People magazine article "Their Brothers' Keepers?" it referred to one incident at Gallaudet University of a pledge who experienced extreme hazing.
The punishment was both tedious and cruel. Last February members of the Kappa Gamma fraternity at Gallaudet University, a school for the deaf in Washington, D.C., reportedly ordered pledge Kevin Clark to stand in a meeting room for several hours without moving. Eventually Clark collapsed and was rushed unconscious to a hospital. He later recovered from head injuries allegedly incurred during his fall, and university officials suspended the fraternity for four years. Such pointless brutality is not unique to Gallaudet. Though colleges have tried to crack down on fraternity hazing in recent years, degrading and sometimes racist initiation activities are still common, In many schools hazing has gone underground, where it is more likely to be abusive," says Eileen Stevens, 52, who founded the Committee to Halt Useless College Killings after her son Chuck, 20, died of alcohol poisoning in a 1978 hazing incident at Alfred University in Alfred, N.Y. A few students have broken the code of silence and offer a glimpse of this dangerous and demeaning rite of passage.
Let me expand about the Kevin Clark hazing incident and how he successfully sued.  In the 1993 People magazine article "Their Brothers' Keepers?" the incident that Kevin Clark experienced was never fully explained. During the pledging probation Kevin Clark was made to stand for several hours under the auspices of Kappa Gamma which caused him to faint and collapse on the floor or so the story goes.  He was rushed to a hospital but my according to my inside sources he was taken to a children's hospital instead and was hastily dropped off at the emergency entrance like a wet rag doll before taking off into the dark of the night.  This could be the case since I suspect in their panic they thought the children's hospital was the closest hospital which is approximately 2.9 miles away from Gallaudet University even though Howard University Hospital was only 1.9 miles away and much closer. It wasn't just that incident that helped win the suit (settled out of court) but pictures of severely bruised and bloodied buttocks and other documented items that helped sealed the indictment against Kappa Gamma.  The Greek organization eventually got suspended for hazing.

In 2006 another pre-pledge incident (pre-pledges are those who go through the interviewing process first before becoming a pledge) experienced the type of hazing described below has been actually corroborated by others who experienced the same thing:
I did not appreciate KG for its antics back then. When they wanted to interview me, they put me in a room blindfolded and made me stay seated for a long time...then they opened the blindfold and I was shocked to find their swords aimed at my eyeballs.
That was a shock test to see if these pre-pledges or interviewees were willing to go through the actual hazing pledge process and that they have the mettle and the "courage" to continue.  Blindfolded in a seating and/or standing arrangement lasted anywhere from less than a few hours to several hours long according to a variety of accounts. The more well known the student is on campus the less standing or sitting he will experience. If a particular student is not "well known" on campus the longer he will stand or sit while blindfolded.  This is believed to have been a common practice by practicing certain favoritism in turn for a lesser "sentence" when it came to hazing their own well known pledges.

According to one commenter in the 2006 Washington Post article he or she talked about how  president I. King Jordan was ceremoniously paddled by a Kappa Gamma brother to become an honorary member of Kappa Gamma after he became president of Gallaudet University.
Many members of this fraternity work at Gallaudet as faculty and staff. Even I. King Jordan was paddled in as an honorary member after he became president. Of course, they were thrilled when two of their own made it to the final three of the presidential selection process, but dismayed when a woman was selected. 
If so then that would be a rare acknowledgement by a university president in 1988 that paddling pledges was seen as an acceptable hazing practice on the campus of Gallaudet University during those days. I was told that there is a picture of president I. King. Jordan posing while he was ceremoniously getting "paddled" after he became president of Gallaudet University.

History is replete with references to hazing in the old days of Kappa Gamma back in the 1930s, 1940s and 1950s seen in the old Buff and Blue archived news letters but how hazing was done and the severity, if any, is subject to discussion.
As is the custom, hazing continues to be the chief interest at the present time. Painting the preps with lip-stick, making them propose to fair damsels of Fowler Hall are only two of the many situations affronting these new students. A common sight is that of an upperclassman explaining the tradition of our noted "coffin door" in forceful and authoritive language and what would result should that certain Prep chance to walk through it. It seems that at the rate they are going, the Freshmen, who were Preps themselves only yesterday, had spent their summer vacation not working in defense plants, but in thinking up new ways with which to make the life of the lowly Prep "miserable." Contrary as it may seem, the new students are apparently enjoying every bit of their hazing. The question, then, is, are the Freshmen dealing out the usual castor oil, or have they changed to honey? The Buff and Blue (newspaper), Vol. 53, no. 1 (October 27, 1944)
Pledges actually enjoyed their own hazings when upperclassman figured out ways to make them feel miserable? Pledges enjoyed that?

Right.

But the question is how extreme were these hazings back in the older days compared to 1980s and 1990s? I'm sure that might be a surprising find.

From an interview in the Buff and Blue about KG during the late 1940s:
I have to say that the best memory for me was the Kappa Gamma Fraternity days. The whole experience really did it for me. It was the pledge process, the four weeks, the “torture period,” [this was before anti-hazing policies existed].


Torture Period? What exactly was hazing like back in the 1940s and 1950s compared to what was documented in the 1990s onward?  More references to freshman hazing from the 1960s, 

Another question, why did it take nearly 80 years before Kappa Gamma was caught hazing and the organization suspended as a result? How come Gallaudet University president Dr. Hurwitz, and prior president Dr. Davila, who are both KG brothers (honorary)? Why did that take place?

Even as recent as the 106th Congregation at the March 3rd, 2005 Kappa Gamma Fraternity Trivia Bowl there is a Powerpoint slide acknowledging with pride proclaiming that the worst paddling incidents occurred during Kappa Gamma's 55th, 81st, and 83rd Congregations (1955, 1981, and 1983) as seen on slide number 65. Incidentally interesting is that the current president of Gallaudet University, Dr. Alan Hurwitz who is a Kappa Gamma honorary brother per the Kappa Gamma website entitled, "Brother Dr. T. Alan Hurwitz, 83rd Congregation." 83rd Congregation and he wants to carry that title?

Slide #76 ask the question on what happened in 1981,
"Why did the 81st Congregation  go through one of the worst probations (if you were a part of that Congregation, you chicken-shits would've died after the first Hell Round!)?"
And the answer was,
"Brother Fear of the T-4 had previously been Brother Death and so he whacked the suppliants as Death. The other T-4 members were forced to whack harder than him, which meant the suppliants were receiving Hell Rounds each time they were whacked." 
Of course, all this means they were paddled mercilessly. The next slide confirms that.

Slide #78,
"How many bloody asses were there in the 81st Congregation?"
Answer:
"13 Bloody Asses." 

Which confirms that some of the paddlings were so severe it caused the pledges' buttocks to turn purple and bloody.  We can only imagine how pledges must have felt when they had to endure one of the worst paddling incidents in the 83rd Congregation with a bloody buttock. Imagine the stain on their underwear and I don't mean skid marks.

On slide #82 a trivia question on when Kappa Gamma received their first suspension and what was the cause of suspension. The first suspension was in 1990 when Kappa Gamma was found guilty of paddling the 90th congregation (slide #83).

Kappa Gamma was suspended the second time in 1992 on accusations of "racism" (slide #85) by a black pledge when one of the Kappa Gamma brothers attempted to act like a "black brotha" using exaggerated, offensive mannerisms of a black person. Yo! Dig me? Wha'sup? Instead of calling it like it was supposed to be, a hazing incident, it appears that this was a cover up and was called it as a racism incident instead.

On slide #86 it asks the question who was the pledge (de-emphasizing the word "pledge" in extremely small font as their way of insulting the person soon to be announced in the next slide) that started the suspension proceedings of Kappa Gamma from 1993 to 1997. Slide #87 with the answer "Kevin Clark" in a font so small you'd have to zoom in close enough just to see his name. On slide #108 it ask a trivia question to list as many probation events with slide #109 listing about 70 events such as the "48 Hour Period," "Goat Night," (which reminds me of the movie Revenge of the Nerds with the goat scene and some condoms for the pledges) and so on.  The list of probation events ends menacingly with "Z-4, (your asses will be sorry!!)" which sounds very much like a paddling expectation despite Gallaudet University's strict policy on hazing.

In my opinion, there were three incidents where Kappa Gamma got caught hazing rather than just two. History has shown repeated references to hazing attempts and how the organization was caught multiple times for hazing suggest the need to repeat such a pattern. Let's hope not.

But here's a good thing. Kappa Gamma no longer supports hazing in any form.

          What is the Kappa Gamma Fraternity’s stance on hazing?
The Kappa Gamma Fraternity follows and respects the Gallaudet University Hazing Policy and abides it fully. Fraternal growth should be facilitated through positive encouragement and instruction of intellectual lessons that strengthens the whole soul, not through hazing.
If that's true perhaps then it's time to burn those old wooden paddles hanging on their walls which graphically represents their hazing history of emotional, mental and physical abuse and apologize to past pledges (especially those that didn't make it), pre-pledges/interviewees and even some of their own ostracized brothers for their hazing past on them who still feel the pain today.

Current and past Kappa Gamma leaders and brothers ought to stand up and make a public major mea culpa announcement and officially apologize to all of the people they have harmed through their antics, intimidation tactics, and hazings that could have caused physical, emotional, and/or mental pain.  They should be at least show remorse and concern over their own Kappa Gamma's past extreme hazing instead of glorifying KG paddles hanging on their walls.

A public apology is in order.

This is the only way to get a clean slate as a fraternity with a new face and mission of no more hazing. Choosing to stay silent and not apologize disrespect those who continue to carry physical, emotional and/or mental scars.  Current Gallaudet University president Dr. Hurwitz need to step up and apologize on behalf all those who cannot or unwilling to apologize to those who have suffered in their hazing experiences under the auspices of Kappa Gamma. Not apologizing means the leaders (current and past) and brothers of Kappa Gamma are not serious about moving forward and be the bigger man. Another former Gallaudet University president, Dr. Robert Davila, is also an honorary Kappa Gamma brother, could also join along with president Dr. Hurwitz and do a joint public announcement on the campus of Gallaudet University along with many of their brothers and make a public apology asking for forgiveness. Doing that will give those who were harmed by their hazing activities the chance to forgive them for their years and years of hazing.

But will they ever come clean?

My poll results suggest that people want to hear from Kappa Gamma leaders (past and present) and brothers to publicly apologize for their Kappa Gamma's sordid hazing past for the physical, mental and even psychological harm they have caused to pre-pledges (interviewees), pledges, and brothers and those who are currently ostracized for whatever reason. It is simply not enough to have a statement on their Kappa Gamma website saying that they support Gallaudet University's anti-hazing policy. A public apology is in order.

What's more, having a statement of supporting no hazing while paddles continue to hang on the walls of their fraternity house shows total hypocrisy in light of their now anti-hazing approach in line with that of Gallaudet University's anti-hazing policy. A paddle hanging on a wall represent emotional, mental and physical abuse. Those paddles in any fraternity hanging on a wall represents a shameful history that need to go into the dust bins.

Here's a last interesting tidbit about the "H.O.S.S." It stands for "Honorary Order of Secret Society. Some say it means "Honorable Order of Silent Surds."  H.O.S.S. was an early Greek organization at Gallaudet University that was founded in 1864 and disbanded in 1894 when the Gallaudet administration discovered that the dues of H.O.S.S. were used to purchase wine.  Later the same group renamed their new fraternity in 1894 as the Xi Phi Sigma fraternity. It lasted until 1900 before it was disbanded again because the XPS fraternity refused to have a faculty supervise their probation activities (i.e. hazing). That same group finally formed an independent fraternity called Kappa Gamma in 1901.

And what about "H.O.S.S."?  Did you ever see the scene in one of the Harry Potter movies where Harry Potter with the rest of the Gryffindor members utters a password, "Fortuna Major," to the Fat Lady in order to get inside of their own secret society within the walls of Gryffindor Tower?




Yeah?

Whatever the case, I think it's time that current and past Kappa Gamma leaders and brothers ought to own up and make a statement by publicly apologizing to all those who have suffered under their hazing practices. Only then will the healing actually begin.  It takes a much bigger man to admit their own mistakes and feel bad about what they did in the past and the mistakes of their own fraternity organization. It takes a very big man to admit that and go forward for the better of all brothers and the fraternity itself.

I feel that the Kappa Gamma fraternity is still great and honorable fraternity that means good but only if they do the right thing. It's the few wayward brothers who got drunk with power and those who followed their instructions without questions are the ones that sullied the name of the Kappa Gamma fraternity organization. They are the ones who have harmed some of the pledges and past brothers with their hazing antics and physical abuse. But as an organization itself the fault lies in more ways than one.

It's time, KG. Stop stalling and do the right thing, and be a man for once. Recognize your brothers, past pledges who didn't make it, and pre-pledges as human beings. They deserve more than your century long silence on past hazing practices.

UPDATE: Why did I blog about Kappa Gamma?

UPDATE II: Why is Hurwitz listed on the KG website as being in the 83rd Congregation and called a brother and never attended Gallaudet University as a student? Is he an honorary brother? Yes. The website does not mention the honorary title which is a mistake on the KG part. The 83rd Congregation and the date of his birth would make him about 41 or 42 years old at the time. Yet, the 83rd Congregation carries the distinction as having experienced one of the worst paddling incidents. See previous blog on that one.  And if he's an honorary meaning he never went through that terrible hazing incident which is good. But bad to carry the 83rd Congregation title as an honorary brother.

Concept of Color vs Concept of Sound

Here's a great captioned video of a guy born blind who have no concept of what color is like and tries to explain to the sighted audience that it's fruitless for them to try and describe colors to him in the hope he'd understand the concept of what color is like. It simply goes nowhere. Reframe that thinking when trying to describe the concept of sound to a deaf person born completely deaf since birth who have not worn a hearing aid or cochlear implant at all, and never heard what sound is like. The idea is the same which is why the concept of sound is so important for those who can hear and discriminate the differences. You don't know what you have lost if you have never experienced it in the first place.




The attacking of Rachel Kolb

I'm not surprise but there are some people who will attack a deaf person for his or her communication preference or approach such as depending on lip-reading to communicate. Rachel Kolb wrote a well written piece in the Stanford Magazine back in March about her life growing up as a deaf person who learned to lip-read to get by.
Lipreading, on which I rely for most social interaction, is an inherently tenuous mode of communication. It's essentially a skill of trying to grasp with one sense the information that was intended for another. When I watch people's lips, I am trying to learn something about sound when the eyes were not meant to hear.
Lip-reading is a skill that not all deaf or hard of hearing people can master. Some do have that skill born out of necessity in the effort to communicate with hearing people.  She has a choice in choosing her mode of communication, nowadays.
Sometimes I feel guilty that I lipread at all. I fear that I am betraying myself by accepting the conventions of the hearing world. I fear that I lack balance—that I am abandoning the communication tactics that work for me, in order to throw myself headlong at a system that does not care about my needs. When I attempt to function like a hearing person, am I not sacrificing my integrity to a game that I lack the tools to tackle, a game that in the end makes me look slow or stupid?

Deaf people—meaning Deaf people who live solely in the Deaf community, and hold on to an inherent pride in their Deafness—often speak of communicating as they please and letting the hearing world "deal with it." They believe in the beauty and, dare I say it, the superiority of sign language. Spoken language, compared with the visual nuances of signing, might as well be caveman guttural grunts.

When I lipread, I leave the clarity of sign language behind. I attempt to communicate with hearing people on their terms, with no expectation that they will return the favor. The standards I am striving for seem ridiculous: I am trying singlehandedly to cross the chasm of disability. Might not my stubbornness be of more harm than good?

I struggle with this. Some days I wonder what it would be like if I refused to speak. I could roll out of bed one morning, decide to take control of my communication on my terms, and make everyone write it down or sign, as other Deaf people do. Some days I resent myself. I wonder if I am weak, ashamed or overly anxious to please.
Although those comments above were not really the reason why some deaf people, most likely culturally deaf, attacked her for that but about how Rachel felt validated and vindicated on being able to use her lip-reading skill at age 12 :
I am 12 and at a summer camp for the deaf. The entire group has just gone whitewater rafting and is stopping to get ice cream. My peers line up by the counter, signing to each other about the flavors they want. I smile and join, finding the conversation perfectly normal. But when the clerk speaks to us, the other kids freeze like mice after the shadow of a hawk has swooped over the grass.  
With a jolt, I realize that they have no means with which to understand this hearing woman. Most do not speak, go to deaf schools, have never had reason to learn to lipread. Their barrier is the same as mine, but completely—instead of partially—insurmountable.  
"What did you say?" I ask the store attendant, looking her in the eye. My voice feels thick from disuse, but still I am aware of its clarity. The other kids stare at me, their hands slack.  
"I said, would you like a free sample?" the attendant says. I understand her and sign the message to the others. They nod, and sign which flavors they want to taste. I repeat, speaking, to the attendant.  
After the ordering, when I finally sit down, my own ice cream in hand, I feel strangely lightheaded. This—being able to endow spoken words with meaning, rather than having them translated by somebody else—is new for me. Because I have so often felt powerless, I have never realized the power that I possess.
It took awhile until the attacks came seen in the comments after many positive comments were made seeing her as a role model in the deaf community.  Seriously, she is seen as a role model in the deaf community whether you like it or not. Others saw her comments as something disruptive and negative in the culturally deaf community. As always, perspectives vary.

Michelle L. Westfall:
Lastly, it's painfully clear to me that the writer has issues with her Deaf identity and is ashamed of being Deaf. How sad. Even worse...it's clear that the writer has been trained by the hearing society that she owes them problem-free communication, and that it's her responsibility to ensure that they never feel uncomfortable and her task to make sure that they never misunderstand her. Wrong on all counts. Communication is TWO-WAY PROCESS and does not lie with *one* person. Dump your misguided guilt, Rachel. You owe them nothing.
Michelle's comment was a bit misapplied if not done in a derogatory way in Rachel's case.  Rachel didn't feel that she owed the hearing society problem-free communication but rather that she attempted to cross the chasm of her own disability by single-handedly reaching out first by speaking and using her lip-reading skill to communicate. There is a difference. Rachel is attempting to enlighten people about her struggles, her fears and hopes. She does explore about herself why she continues to lipread rather than ensuring that she gets the full communication access even though she knows sign language. No use in dumping on Rachel about some supposedly guilt complex of hers.


Meme H. Kerr:
Now, Kolb's comment about discovering the power after the ice cream shop incident, she's basically taking the power away from the other Deaf kids. I've found their reaction hard to believe because we're so used to hearing people talking to us. Well, if that's really the case, then blame on their teachers or parents for not teaching them to find a way to communicate, rather than to rely on someone else to facilitate the communication. Spending time trying to figure what people are saying is a total waste of time. Getting out pen and paper is relatively a simple task. Apparently, many people are either illiterate or lazy. Kolb, you're doing more harm than good, really. You're only perpetuating dysfunctional & paternalistic thinking in hearing people.
I don't see how that day Rachel took "the power away from other Deaf kids" that day. It just happened that day when she was 12 years old. Not much to read into that. Kids were unable to understand what a hearing attendant was saying and so she was able to help them out. The deaf kids were happy to get their ice cream in short order. Kerr is making a mountain out of molehill. Kolb was simply describing her experience when she was 12 years old at a summer camp for deaf kids. As for lip-reading it might be a waste of time for you to figure out what people are saying but not so for others who may have that skill. Personally, it'd be a waste of my time myself to try and lip-read since I communicate much more effectively with my hearing aid on. 

I saw no paternalistic thinking in what Kolb was expressing. She already knows sign language and happens to be a good lip-reader. No big mystery.


John Pirone:
I believe that the statement. "I have never realized the power that I possess.." defeats what you are trying to tell us.  You explain in detail how frustrating you are with the ineffectiveness of lipreading yet now you are grateful for having that "skill" just because you feel the power of using it.
Rachel's article about her struggles growing up as a profoundly deaf person was not "defeated" when she explained on how she felt for the first time that her lip-reading skill were validated that day at age 12 yeas old. She was conveying a realization at the time how she felt vindicated when she discovered she could help others with her lip-reading skill. Nothing more to read between the lines or form conspiracy theories. She simply expressed what she felt that day. Instead, John gets bent out of shape about Kolb's story when she was 12 years old and what she felt at that time.  Just as well, there is nothing wrong with feeling grateful for having a particular communication skill and be able to use that.  Not just a "skill" but a good skill at that.

Saturday, July 06, 2013

Rachel Kolb...choices and challanges in life as a deaf person.

Who is Rachel Kolb?

Here's a video of her at Stanford University doing a TEDx presentation about her life as a profoundly deaf person using the opportunity to transmit her ideas to a mostly hearing audience in a language that they understand. She describes her experiences growing up who learned how to lipread and how she struggled to communicate on a daily basis what other people are saying. After 18 years of speech therapy sessions she is reaping the benefit of courageously going on stage to do her TEDx oral presentation about her life as a deaf person.



 

Twitter Dies.....

Well, at least it did for me. I wasn't even following Twitter much less twitted my twits to all those twitters who like to follow my Twitter. I just officially deactivated my Twitter account. It is now no more. Thank god. I never tethered my smartphone to Twitter or Facebook. It'd be too annoying and a drain on my smartphone's battery, btw. I mean, at least FB allows much more that 140 characters. Twitter has no value. It is dead to me. It has no social value to me. Using that and writing your twits is the equivalent of Valley girl speak trying to summarize one's thoughts into 140 characters. Like, fur shur, gag me with a spoon. LOL. OMG! Bye bye, Twitter. No more twitter droppings for me. I happily flushed it down the toilet.

Monday, July 01, 2013

AB 455 bill to be reworked

I was in close contact with a person who shall remain unnamed here  regarding the development of the AB 455 bill in California who was working with a particular group  who had some concern about the bill's language. They were able to successfully turn the bill into a two year bill.  That means no action this year while the legislature work to rewrite it and make it appropriate for all Deaf, deaf, and hoh kids in California. This means the bill will not go before a committee or get a floor vote. The bill simply needs a revamp. I was correct that the language of the bill was a bit unclear, even vague, enough so it would warrant justified concerns.  One big reason is that the bill failed to define "Deaf" in the write up. For a recap go here -  http://kokonutpundits.blogspot.com/2013/05/ab-455-california-bill-to-force.html UPDATE: I had my suspicions about the bill when the terms "deaf" and "hard of hearing" original language in the bill were struck and replaced with "Deaf." An undefined term. One deaf Californian contacted the assemblyperson about the bill and asked if (a) the bill was intended to establish state content standards for ASL like English and math, or (b) was it intended to translate into ASL for those who use it? The assemblyman responded in the affirmative but when asked for clarification on which question was being affirmed the person didn't get a clarifying response. That pretty much says it all.

Wednesday, June 05, 2013

Video: Brain-stem implant and cued speech for a deaf boy

Grayson Clamp, who was born with Charge Syndrome, recently became the first child to receive an auditory brain stem implant as part of a Food and Drug Administration trial.

Go here to the original site to see it in CC.

Before you track this parent down, which I suggest you do not, just so you can give him unsolicited advices or worse berate him. Here's a reminder why you should not.

Sunday, June 02, 2013

Is Daniel Winship's art seen as "bullying"?

This what Tara Congdon wrote in her blog piece about Daniel Winship's own drawing depicting a deaf boy's head getting his cochlear implant drilled to his head:
"Precisely because of all the reactions posted on the image and its iterations across the Internet, Winship’s art must NOT be censored, as some demanded, or even labeled as bullying, as the operators of thedeafcommunity.org have done."
Art is fine. It's a form of expression based on many things. Some people don't even consider certain art as being art but a heap of mess instead. I understand that, too. Censoring art isn't a great idea, either (of course, perhaps with extreme prejudice that could depend on some things). Having said that, people do have a right to feel or think that certain art is seen as a form of "bullying." Seeing how it is provocative through the art's view own hyperbolic expression helping spread the myth continue to grow and misinform.

The owner of thedeafcommunity.org has every right to label certain art as the "bullying" kind if the person feels it has that kind of feel to it. Not quite the same thing but I think I understand the reason behind it when people think it's a form of "bullying" such as the claimed example seen in the "Bully File."
De'VIA (Deconstructing the Forced Assimilation of Deaf People) resistent art used as tactis to scare, bully and silence anyone who is pro-options for deaf children. De'VIA art is exhibited in places such as Gallaudet University.  For the an example of one such work, click on one of these links:

 
 
 
This example was shared among numerous sites on the internet in May 2013. Do note, "The Deaf Militants Battle with the Hydra Monster" poster is available for sale but without the permission of the person(s) represented on the image.
 
But are those art examples truly a form of bullying? Perhaps not. Perhaps not in the bully context as we know it but I believe I understand where this person is coming from. I cannot say that this person's viewpoint or perspective is entirely wrong saying it's a form of bullying. That kind of context need to be explored further.

Maybe some people feel that some art or drawing exhibit a form of "bullying" because of the pushiness it exhibits constantly at certain people or organization through examples of hyperboles and total exaggeration. Or that it mocks, demean, or ridicule certain people. And so on. After all, art is all about interpretation and people interpret art differently. Seeing it as a form of "bullying" is one of them.

"F*ck you, Deaf community!": Part II

Sometimes people who think they are doing the right thing actually end up hurting their cause and image when it comes to certain deafness related issues and concerns. I blogged this before a few years back and I think this warrant another blog piece in light of Daniel Winship's Facebook piece that generated lots of negative and positive reactions as a reminder that spewing hate and vindictiveness could simply backfire where targeted parents wrongly accused get the full wrath of the Deaf community's ire. Sometimes quite skewed in their outlook while other times sobering. The thread I'm about to link provide an insight look into the views and perspectives of mostly hearing people on the discussion of cochlear implant. It's a sobering read and seeing how many of them experienced the wrath from certain inner circles of the culturally deaf community their ire and hate. The author of the thread, Fuck you, Deaf "Community"   , is a hearing parent who exemplifies the very example of how the venting of the culturally deaf community can backfire in getting the very parents their support on the cochlear implant issue.



1. My 4-year-old daughter is deaf. She is not "Deaf" with a capitol D. She simply has no hair cells in her cochlea, she has no functioning inner ear. Even though she is deaf, she is not automatically part of your little world of shame and exclusion, and her native language is not ASL. It is not child abuse if we decide to raise her in a household that speaks English. So: fuck you for claiming her as your own, without a second thought to the wishes of her parents.

2. We gave our daughter cochlear implants when she was an infant. We made this long and difficult decision based on the research that was available to us, based on the educational resources available in our area, based on the nature of her deafness, and, yes, based on our own biases and desires. She had her surgeries before she was old enough to make the choice for herself, because to wait so long means to give her hearing long after her developing brain can make the best use of it. It is a well-known and long-researched phenomenon that pre-lingual implantation leads to vastly improved speech and hearing skills. But you call it child abuse. You call it cosmetic surgery on an infant, and more than once you called me a monster for it. It is not child abuse, to make complicated decisions about your kids without their input - it's called parenting. Nor is it cosmetic to give my kid a developmental boost. So: fuck you for heaping accusations of pre-lingual cosmetic surgery child abuse on me.

3. Our family is learning ASL, and have been since we learned our daughter was profoundly deaf. We will use sign as a second language, indefinitely. My wife is in school to become an interpreter. Nor do we believe in a purely oralist tradition; we acknowledge the importance of communication between deaf people without assistance. We get it, ok? We're committed. But because we gave our daughter cochlear implants, you automatically believe that we're out to destroy ASL, to destroy Deaf culture. You never listen to our reasoning, because what do we know? We're motivated by a desire to mingle in both worlds, and yet we're constantly scoffed at by the Deafies on principle. So: fuck you for your pernicious false dichotomies.

4. Speaking of false dichotomies: what the hell do you mean by the "Hearing Community"? You mean the 99% of the world...with functional ears? They form a single community separate from your own? Because obviously it's the Deaf Community vs. the world. Yeah, fuck you and your false dichotomies, again.

5. It's funny how your handicap isn't a handicap. You aren't missing a major sensory organ, it's simply that you have chosen a primary language which is signed rather than spoken. You embrace and welcome the nature of your language and your community, and you are, you say, just as capable as any hearing person. I get it - it's not a handicap. It's not a disability. You feel that there's nothing wrong with your bodies. You aren't broken machines in need of repair. You're not incomplete people deserving of pity. You're a close-knit community because, I gather, there's a conspiracy of doctors and audiologists and educators and academics and hearing-aid industry types, who are, to a person, out to suck your wallets dry then utterly crush and humiliate you, simply because...they hate your lifestyle choice. But you look past all that. You're complete and beautiful human beings and you're happy with the way God created you. There's nothing wrong with being deaf. Deafness is beautiful! So fuck you for demanding - and happily accepting - constant special accommodation for your alleged non-handicap. (And fuck you for demanding respect and understanding from my family, without giving us any in return.)

6. Your precious ASL doesn't have a sweet simplicity; it's just as capricious and arbitrary and fucked-up as any other language. I mean, come on! In our current class, we're learning three - THREE - different signs for the word "car". Which you don't apparently use interchangeably. What the hell? It kind of messes up your principle of "conceptual accuracy". Especially considering that there are many signs for most common words. A lot of the difference is regional, but a lot is just "we do it this way, they do it that way". ASL is, simply, fragmented. English, at least, has standardized on "wh" question words: "who", "why", etc. But English, even in signed form, is "too ugly" for you. Fuck you and your "beautiful language" high horse.

7. ASL purists, who want to distance ASL from English as much as possible, who advocate removing as much fingerspelling from the language as possible, who want to remove as many initial letters ("T" for toilet, "B" for box, etc.) as possible... yeah, I see you fingerspelling common words, I see you happily using intial letters. Fuck you for...well, for being uppity elitists. Go drive a Hummer while you're at it.

8. ASL has no written form. It must use another language - the hated and maligned English - for written communication. Therefore, it's nigh-impossible to look up a new word by its sign. Therefore, memorization plays a much larger role in ASL than in most languages. Therefore, more effort goes into learning how to sign, when other kids are learning how to read and write. Guess what kind of impact that has on illiteracy rates? And...you seem to prefer it that way? Before I met y'all I thought the illiteracy was the result of educational and developmental difficulties. But the more Deaf people I meet, the more I find that you don't much care about reading and writing proper English. ASL and TV is all you need. So...yeah. Fuck you for that, too. By the way, my deaf daughter is learning how to read, you dipshits.

9. While I'm at it, Alexander Graham Bell has been dead for 86 fucking years. When he was alive, he didn't gas any Deaf babies, he didn't sterilize anyone. If you honestly believe that he wanted to prevent deaf people from reproducing, even when his mother and wife were deaf, then I honestly believe you're pretty damn stupid. At any rate, it's a vastly different world today than it was back then. Believe you me, there are plenty of other villains to worry about today. Fuck you for not getting over A.G. Bell already.

10. Again with the calling me an audist in denial of your beautiful heritage. Which is funny, because from my perspective, you're being "deafists" in denial of your own handicaps. But you don't see me calling you out on it several times a week. Fuck you and your utter lack of tact.

But mostly, fuck you for putting a claim on my kid. I've been at this for more than four years, and you're just getting more hostile at us hearing-family-with-deaf-child-who-has-cochlear-implants. Our world, the world of the hearing, the world we're raising our girl in, the world you loathe so much -- our world is fucked up, sure, but it's roses and cotton candy and day-long free pony rides compared to yours.

Cochlear Implant Surgery - "It's a Beautiful Thing"

Two extremes, one is an exaggerated drawing of a boy getting cochlear implant by Daniel Winship where people responded both positively and negatively.
Commenters have used a range of words to describe the illustration, including powerful, evocative, propaganda, utter nonsense, crap, an evil depiction, sensationalistic, and patently false. Winship himself has been accused of brainwashing, labeled a sick person, and called a cunt, “closed-minded arrogant twat,” and wacko on the same level as members of the Westboro Baptist Church. Others have made assumptions, including that Winship must be an ex-implantee, that he doesn’t have children – much less any with “a birth defect” – and that his illustration reflects the opinion of the entire deaf community.
It's acknowledged that people see things differently based on a variety of reasons including life experiences whether it was a positive or negative one.

Tara Congdon went on to write about her interview with Daniel Winship his drawing seen in his Facebook.  The interview was an interesting read and insightful but I couldn't help noticed when Tara used one comment by posting a screen capture of an unknown commenter who described cochlear implant surgery as a "beautiful thing."
"I do not support a sick person who thinks this is what a cochlear implant surgery looks like.  I'm 100% sure you have never seen the actual surgery. It's a beautiful thing!"



You can see the whole context in the screen capture right before the comment was made on how beautiful cochlear implant surgery is and understand the perspective of why that person said that.  It is after all a whole different and positive viewpoint seeing that a cochlear implant surgery can be a beautiful thing. This unknown commenter have had her/his own cochlear implant surgery done and saw that it was a beautiful thing because she has gotten so much positive benefits out of her own first cochlear implant at age 4. and 21 years later will get a 2nd one this year. The unknown commenter was responding to Daniel Winship's exaggerated drawing in his Facebook of a cochlear implant surgery.

But it takes two to have a dialogue and a discussion, good or bad.

It's not surprising to see people respond negatively to this unknown person's own positive experience that cochlear implant surgery is a beautiful thing such as Dr. Don Grushkin seen in another Facebook discussion.



I'd say a lot of the vindictiveness is due to lack of understanding, miscommunication, and lack of respect instead of agreeing to disagree and that various opinions are valid in more ways than one. Sometimes the vindictiveness is at the fault in some circles of the culturally deaf community who tend to side on hyperboles and myths much like what happened in one blog I covered called, "F*ck you, Deaf community!" which serves an example of how such protestations by certain Deaf people can simply backfire instead of lending a helping and understanding hand.
We gave our daughter cochlear implants when she was an infant. We made this long and difficult decision based on the research that was available to us, based on the educational resources available in our area, based on the nature of her deafness, and, yes, based on our own biases and desires. She had her surgeries before she was old enough to make the choice for herself, because to wait so long means to give her hearing long after her developing brain can make the best use of it. It is a well-known and long-researched phenomenon that pre-lingual implantation leads to vastly improved speech and hearing skills. But you call it child abuse. You call it cosmetic surgery on an infant, and more than once you called me a monster for it. It is not child abuse, to make complicated decisions about your kids without their input - it's called parenting. Nor is it cosmetic to give my kid a developmental boost. So: f*ck you for heaping accusations of pre-lingual cosmetic surgery child abuse on me.

Our family is learning ASL, and have been since we learned our daughter was profoundly deaf. We will use sign as a second language, indefinitely. My wife is in school to become an interpreter. Nor do we believe in a purely oralist tradition; we acknowledge the importance of communication between deaf people without assistance. We get it, ok? We're committed. But because we gave our daughter cochlear implants, you automatically believe that we're out to destroy ASL, to destroy Deaf culture. You never listen to our reasoning, because what do we know? We're motivated by a desire to mingle in both worlds, and yet we're constantly scoffed at by the Deafies on principle. So: f*** you for your pernicious false dichotomies.

What a way to lose the support of that parent.

So, yeah, people do see certain surgeries as a "beautiful thing" because to them they see is liberation, access, and freedom. And, yes, parents who do the right thing and make an informed decision still get flack from certain inner circles of the culturally deaf community who run on hyperbolic emotions.

Did Daniel Winship's drawing help or hurt the culturally deaf community?

UPDATE: Check out "F*ck you, Deaf Community!: Part II"

Don't miss it!

Saturday, June 01, 2013

Deafread continues to improve

Elsewhere on a positive note, Deafread continues to improve in its standing. This uptick is slowly gaining grounds since 2011 after an all time low global Rank of 2,553,855 per my screen capture. Visiting the Alexa site reveals the changes. Looking at my screen capture from last year in December of 2012 showed a global Alexa Traffic Rank of 2,124,154 while ranking in Canada yielded a rank of 86,239. Today showed a global rank of 2,064,335 and a ranking of 56,297 in Canada. A definite improving trend. For what it's worth I am noticing more and more people using Deafread now and it is now becoming much more adequately diverse on the type of blogs and people that grace the aggregator site's. So much for certain Deaf factions' boycott attempt over petty reasons in their effort to control Deafread's aggregator output and to force Tayler Mayer to fall in line with their ideology and deaf politics.

Tayler refused to so do and refused their online bullying tactics.

Good. We need people like Tayler Mayer who can think independently and not become coerced by people who think bullying and slandering are the answer.

Another interesting finding is that people are actually looking up my name in Deafread as seen in the "Top Search Queries results for Deafread.com" search results near the bottom of the Alexa page. Approximately 3.51% of the traffic searches in Deafread went for looking my name up in Deafread.



Dudes. I can't be that popular!

Deafread, still surviving, still thriving since the big boycott walkout of 2009.

Death of a Deaf Forum

It's dying of natural causes because naturally no one cares to visit this forum because it has become so one sided with everyone agreeing and nodding their heads together like bobbleheads.



No real diversity of thoughts allowed, practically so, without the risk of getting lambasted by zealots for having an alternative opinion or thought. Never daring to be different. The last group of lemmings was seen heading over the cliff.

Even in Facebook shows inactivity for a year with no hope for revival. Because who would want to go to a deaf-run forum with everybody agreeing on just about everything involving deaf politics and politics itself? It was a place seen as a "safe-haven" so to speak.  But the forum is wretchedly and slowly dying of natural causes. What is the forum I'm speaking of? Not gonna say. Just let it be and let it die naturally.  But if you do find the site via Google search you will find a warning beneath the link that says, "This site may harm your computer."  Might as well be a leper colony that nobody in their right mind would want to go and visit.

Yeah, let it die. Tis only humane. No one really cares. Life moves on.



Remove "Deaf people can do anything except hear" phrase

The phrase "Deaf people can do anything except hear" is an oft repeated phrase used by many culturally deaf people but it's a phrase that I and millions of other people with hearing loss do not really care for.

Why?

Well, it's not entirely an accurate phrase for one thing because people with hearing loss can do anything including the ability to hear. Not everybody, mind you. Having said that it's unclear what the term "Deaf" seen in the phrase is referring to. If we're using Humphries and Padden's definition to mean culturally deaf people only, then perhaps the phrase is adequate for the most part when that phrase was invented at the time. Then again you'd have this deaf band Beethoven's Nightmare to contend with that question with their most recent YouTube video. If it's not Humphries and Padden's definition and instead to mean anyone with a hearing loss from mild to profound (all inclusive) then the phrase is sorely outdated and antiquated in the era of hearing technology.  There are Deaf (new definition) people who can hear and do the jobs just like hearing people can using their ability to hear with the aid of existing hearing technology to perform the same type of jobs. This is another example of how the term "Deaf'" does not help make the case for culturally deaf people who insist on the newly defined term.  And this is why.

CAD and the AB 455 California Bill

The AB 455 bill is looking more like a bill that needs to be thrown out because it lacks an official definition for the term "Deaf" seen here in the bill. Unless the bill can provide an official definition to the term "Deaf" then perhaps the bill can be saved rather than scrapped.

But there's a problem.

The confusion could be blamed on zealots who wanted to change the definition of the word "Deaf" with the capitalized "D" to mean all inclusive of those with a hearing loss from mild to profound, whether they know sign language or not.  In fact, you have people like Dr. Genie Gertz, Ella Mae Lentz, and  others who are in the same boat and would even agree with what Dr. Grushkin said,
I choose to capitalize "Deaf" for all Deaf (and Hard of Hearing) people, not to signify any cultural affiliation, but to emphasize the common ethnicity of Deaf people. I believe that the d/D distinction is unnecessarily divisive, cumbersome, and ultimately more trouble than it is worth, although it did serve an important purpose in its time. But using Deaf for all does not signify cultural membership, just as not all Black people are necessarily part of Black culture or all Jews are practicing religious Jews.
And compare that to the official definition of "Deaf" according to Carol Padden and Tom Humphries, in Deaf in America: Voices from a Culture (1988) who invented the capitalized, big D, word explains the meaning and difference between "D"eaf and "d"eaf:
We use the lowercase deaf when referring to the audiological condition of not hearing, and the uppercase Deaf when referring to a particular group of deaf people who share a language – American Sign Language (ASL) – and a culture. The members of this group have inherited their sign language, use it as a primary means of communication among themselves, and hold a set of beliefs about themselves and their connection to the larger society. We distinguish them from, for example, those who find themselves losing their hearing because of illness, trauma or age; although these people share the condition of not hearing, they do not have access to the knowledge, beliefs, and practices that make up the culture of Deaf people.
In short, the term "Deaf" has always been defined as people who are culturally deaf and signs in ASL. That already defined word has already entered into the collective conscious minds of people for almost three decades. But people have a nasty habitat on putting the term "Deaf" into a bill or a bylaw without providing an official definition as a clarification.

California Association of the Deaf bylaws is another good example who used the term "Deaf" peppered throughout but no definition explaining the meaning "Deaf." Yet also, their bylaws make no reference to the term "hard of hearing," either. They didn't write down "Deaf and hard of hearing" in their bylaws like the AB 455 bill did but used only the  "Deaf" term instead. In other words they made the term "Deaf" to mean all inclusive those with a hearing loss from mild to profound rather than to mean only for culturally deaf people.

 At the very bottom of the bylaws CAD has a definition of the term "Deaf":
"Deaf is a term that includes all the individuals: born deaf, deafened in early, sometimes late childhood, for whom American Sign Language and Deaf community/culture collectively represent their primary experience and existence regardless of hearing disability they have.”
Was that an official definition of "Deaf" from CAD? Curiously so in their most recently updated bylaws as of August of 2011 they presented no definition for the term "Deaf" in various forms such as "Deaf community," "Deaf individuals," and the single term "Deaf."

Over the last three decades Deaf (culturally deaf) people have made a point that they "own" the word "Deaf" and for it to mean explicitly one thing, a deaf culture group that uses ASL. They have always agreed with Padden and Humphries' definition of that term.
Deaf with a capital D is a cultural term, rather than an audiological one. As defined by Carol Padden and Tom Humphries in Deaf in America: Voices from a Culture (1988), Deaf refers ‘to a particular group of deaf people who share a language—American Sign Language (ASL)—and a culture.”
Hence, it's understandable seeing the confusion of the bill's language writing in "Deaf and hard of hearing" into the bill when earlier it was written as "deaf and hard of hearing."  Exactly what is the official definition of the term "Deaf" seen in the AB 455 bill?

Well? What is it?

I'm waiting.

UPDATE: Of course, this is something that Tara Congdon failed to realize in her "investigative" reporting on CNN that the bill lacked any definition for the term "Deaf" which might become the unexpected monkey wrench. We'll wait and see, and get a more definitive report elsewhere whether the bill might present a problem or not.